A Friend In Need

“The Purpose Of Human Life Is To Serve, And To Show Compassion And The Will To Help Others”*

As I’m reading a self-help book, I’ll often put it down to meditate upon its meaning, and as I did so this morning, I was transported back in time.

Being a teenager can be a difficult time to say the least. For myself, I have many regrets that have haunted me from those early years, but that’s part of why I’ve read hundreds of self-help books – because for lasting change to occur, you must want to change, and it must start from within.

A long time ago I was walking down the street when I saw a friend of mine walking towards me. I hadn’t seen Dave for several weeks, and as we shook hands I noticed his big smile and the happy vibes that he was sending out.

I asked him why I hadn’t seen him around, and with great pride and joy he said, “I have a girlfriend now, and I’m really in love with her, and we’ve been spending a lot of time together.”

I always liked Dave a lot because he was a really nice person despite his story – his parents were divorced, his dad was long gone, he lived alone with his mom, and his older brother was in prison.

I won’t lie to you, Dave smoked dope and drank alcohol sometimes as many teens with shattered home lives tend to do. So I was incredibly happy that he had found himself a girlfriend, and was in love because he deserved it.

After walking and talking for a while, we went our separate ways. I knew that I probably wouldn’t see or hear from him for some time, but I understood why.

“The Language Of Friendship Is Not Words But Meaning”*

About a month later as I was walking down that same street, I saw Dave in the distance. As we walked towards each other I immediately noticed a difference – he was walking slowly, looking down at the ground, and as we met, there was not even a hint of a smile on his face.

I asked him what was going on, and he told me that his girlfriend had broken up with him. Although I had never met her, and she wasn’t my girlfriend, my heart sank for my friend.

I did my best to help him with some words of wisdom. I told him that we were young, and it was rare for people to spend their whole life with their first love. It was sad, but it was just a part of life.

I told him that this too shall come to pass, that his pain will ease up in time, and that he’d meet the right lady for him one day. But, none of that seemed to cheer him up at all.

We sat at the park together for a couple of hours as I listened to him talk about her. Like I said, I never met her, and I know that Dave adored her, but I hated her for what she had done to him because he had already been through enough pain in his short life.

“The Only Way To Have A Friend Is To Be One”*

Before we went our separate ways I told Dave to call me, that we should take in a movie, or go shoot some pool. Neither of which seemed to interest him.

A week or so later I tried calling him because I was really concerned about him, but no one answered the phone. A few days after that I met another friend at the mall and he said, “Did you hear about Dave?” Well, I hadn’t so he gave me the news.

Apparently, Dave went into the underpass that ran underneath the highway, drank a bottle of rubbing alcohol then proceeded to smack his head against the concrete wall until he was no longer a part of this world. Dead at eighteen!

“I Think I Love You Too Much”*

We all understand the pain of life. We’ve all loved and lost. We all have regrets, guilt, and bad memories. And I’m sure that you’ll agree that the teens can be really hard.

In fact, a big part of the reason that I started my blog was to turn my own pain around by trying to help others. Once I delved deep into many classic self-help books, I wondered why they didn’t teach them in school. If they did, it might have saved my tormented soul – and perhaps Dave’s life.

“The Mind Is Its Own Place, And In Itself Can Make A Heaven Of Hell, A Hell Of Heaven”*

Then again maybe if I hadn’t have gone through hell, I wouldn’t be in heaven now. When my own life had become so meaningless and futile, I tried praying to God even though I doubted that He even existed.

I didn’t know it then, but I set in motion the universal laws of mind. Because when you pray to a Higher Power you also tap into The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind {<Free Copy} by Joseph Murphy.

Then my whole life started to change. I found videos like The Day That Turns Your Life Around by Jim Rohn which inspired me to start reading self-help books – eventually hundreds of them.

When life is getting you down, ask someone for help. If you don’t feel like asking another person then try praying to God. I understand that there are believers and non-believers, and I never preach, but ask someone or something for help. Or do what I did – read a self-help book.

If Dave had asked me or any of his other friends, gone to a professional, or fell down on his knees and prayed for help, he would probably still be alive today. Maybe with kids of his own, or at this point grand kids. And his first love would be a distant memory in the mist of time.

“When The Night Is Darkest, The Stars Come Out”*

Remember that you are not alone. No matter what you’re going through, this too shall come to pass. If you’re struggling with life then ask for help, pray, or check out some some self-help books, audios, and videos. They really helped me, which is why I’m writing this now – because I want to help you.

And don’t forget about the elderly because the only time of life that can be harder than the teens is being really old… if you make it there.

All the best, – Herb.

Quotes – *Albert Schweitzer, *Henry David Thoreau, *H.D. Thoreau, *Jeff Healey version, *John Milton, *Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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